I know the voice of doubt. It comes in the night to question and criticize. It tells us we are not good enough or smart enough to do this. It may come as a whisper or scream unceasingly. Either way it keeps us awake going over the activities of the day.
“How could you lose your temper you know he’s sick?”
“I can’t believe you said that to him.”
“How could you forget to tell the doctor about that?”
“You think you’re so smart, why is she getting worse every day?
Yes, I know the voice of doubt. I know how we question ourselves all the time. We expect so much of ourselves it’s impossible to live up to our expectations. When family members do it we know they are full of s**t and we get angry. When we do it to ourselves we start to believe. We lose precious sleep judging ourselves harshly.
I know the voice of doubt. She whispered to me every night. She lied. I hope by writing this post I will be able to convince you that the voice keeping you awake at night is no better than mine was.
You are a caregiver and you do not have to be perfect to do what is best for the person in your care. And, sometimes being a little bit crazy is exactly what is needed in the moment.
What are some of the things you say to yourself late at night? Share them here. It may help you and other caregivers silence the voice and allow you to rest when you can.
I continue to plead with Dr. Phil to use his resources and the Dr. Phil Foundation to create a grant to provide caregivers with assistance.
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