When it’s one of those many very bad days and you the person you are caring for is pushing every button and grating on every nerve it’s natural to feel resentful and truly dislike her or him.
It’s okay to feel that way. Most of do more quite often thorough this life changing time. However, anger and resentment take a toll on us mentally and physically. It’s exhausting to deal with all that emotion on top of everything else you do.
What is a caregiver to do on days like that?
- Walk away from the person in your care.
- Go to a quiet place. Go to the bathroom if that’s the only place you can be alone.
- Take a deep breath, let it out slowly. Repeat, Repeat. Repeat. Keep repeating until you feel calm.
- Think of one of the very best days you ever had with your caree. Picture it in your mind. When you are ready, perhaps when you being to smile, or cry, or simply wish for that day back, go get a cup of coffee or a glass of water.
- When you are ready – share that memory with your love one. Hold his or her hand if they are open to it. If they are not in a mood to share just then, it’s okay. You took a bit of time to take care of you. And maybe you have planted a seed in your caree’s memory that will take root later and give them a precious moment as well.
The Imperfect Caregiver 
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