Somewhere a caregiver needs you. They may not say it out loud but they are communicating their need. It could be in their absence from all the activities they used to be involved with or by the phone calls, text messages or tweets that no longer arrive in your inbox. Perhaps the last time you saw her or him in the grocery store there was a brief moment when he or she appeared about to cry.
Maybe you asked what you could do to help and were told everything is okay but, somewhere inside, you knew something was not as it should be.
It’s not that caregivers don’t or want your help, it’s that they don’t know what to ask for.
How do you request a good night’s sleep or a few moments to collect your thoughts? How do you tell friends who are so busy with their own families that you are lonely and wish they would stop by for a visit now and then?
How do ask someone to keep you from falling when every moment of your time is spent holding on for dear life to another?
Somewhere a caregiver is trying hard never having to depend on anyone, to never show any weakness.
If you know a caregiver, please don’t ask if he needs help. Know that he does and do whatever you can to let him know he is not alone.