The Four Walls of My Freedom – by Donna Thomson

I am proud to share the following information about this book for caregivers. The new paperback edition of the book, “The Four Walls of My Freedom: Lessons I’ve Learned From a Life of Caregiving” (The House of Anansi Press, 2014) by Donna Thomson  is available in the USA at all major booksellers!

Donna said:

Here’s a short interview that aired a few months ago on a national morning TV show in Canada.   It will give you a sense of the book.  Here’s the link – sorry, I couldn’t find a way to embed it.

DONNA THOMSON began her career as an actor, director and teacher. But in 1988, when her son Nicholas was born with severe disabilities, Donna embarked on her second career as a disability activist, author, consultant and writer.

In her book, “THE FOUR WALLS OF MY FREEDOM”, (2010 and coming out in paperback Jan. 2014 by House of Anansi Press), Donna examines her personal family experience with caregiving, probing the ethics and economics of how families giving and receiving care can flourish in society. Donna examines how social innovation leading to practical solutions for families can thrive even in times of austerity – a subject she blogs about regularly at her site “The Caregivers’ Living Room” ( Donna also writes extensively for magazines on the topics of eldercare and family caregiving.


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Interview with Clarke Pollard of Alzheimer’s Support Network


Also Participating in the Interview

Marianne Troy (in the middle) and Debbie Fulton

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Just Because I’m Mad

Just Becasue I'm Mad

Or that I’m a bad person not fit to be a caregiver.

When I felt angry and resentful for the first time it was devastating. Where was it coming from? Why was it coursing through me when the crisis had passed and things were getting better?

“What’s wrong with me?” I cried and I prayed.

The guilt that accompanied those feelings threatened to overwhelm me. I didn’t know if I could go on. If I should go on. I was ashamed of myself for being so weak.

What I didn’t understand was that my feelings were normal. The anger was a passing storm sweeping away debris that had been piling up inside me. It was a way to release the stress and worry that comes with being a caregiver.

I loved Rodger very much, even when it wasn’t easy to do so, and he felt the same way about me. What mattered in the end was not the passing storms  but the  love that inspired the commitment I made to care for him and the trust he had that I would be there when he needed me.

I smile every time I look at the picture that inspired this post. How fitting it is for caregivers and everyone else. It applies just as well to parents and children, husbands and wives, friends, brothers and sisters, everyone we care about enough to invest our emotions in. I hope everyone I love will always know, “Just because I’m mad, doesn’t mean I stop caring.”

A Few Kind Words

Kind words echo

Caregiver be kind to yourself. Don’t judge yourself harshly or second guess the decisions you make. Every day you do the best you can and no one can ask for more, not even you.  Mornings, as you prepare to care for loved one, remember these words by Mother Teresa and know you are not alone.



A Very Special Day

“Do you have a suggested release date in mind?” Paul Burt of Open Books Press Publishing asked.

I hadn’t thought past, “I have a publishing contract!” and was unprepared to answer.

 “Is July 26th do-able?” my husband, Mike, asked. Immediately I knew he was right. I crossed my fingers and waited for Paul to respond.

“Why that date? Is there some significance?”

“It’s my Dad’s birthday and the date he passed away,” Mike answered.

“I’ll do everything I can to make it happen. It will be a real tribute to your father,” Paul said.

 I agreed.

We were deeply saddened when we realized that we might lose him on that day. Then his hospice nurse said,“Wouldn’t it be wonderful if he died on his birthday?”

Seeing the shock and confusion her remark caused, she went on to explain. “What could be a more perfect gift than to see God on your birthday? I’ll pray for him and for you that he passes in peace.”

He did. So today, his birthday and the day he got to see the face of God, we honor him


Rodger Carducci

 July 26, 1926 – July 26, 2009

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Confessions of an Imperfect Caregiver: For caregivers and those who will become caregivers. I hope our story will hep you understand that you don’t have to get it right every time in order to succeed and sometimes being a little bit crazy is exactly what is needed.
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Confessions of an Imperfect Caregiver

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ISBN 978-0-9859367-7–8   $15.95

I am  pleased and excited to share the cover art for my book, Confessions of an Imperfect Caregiver. Revealing it feels a bit like introducing one of my babies to the world. It took well over nine months to write the book and the labor was grueling at times. Now that I see it’s face I am extremely proud and happy.

I wrote Confessions of an Imperfect Caregiver share my doubts, failures and successes with others who are, or will be, caring for loved ones in their home. It’s an invitation to cry with me and laugh me as I share what I did when I didn’t know what to do.

Confessions of an Imperfect Caregiver is Scheduled for Release (Open Books Press)

  on July 26, 2014

Advance Praise for Confessions of an Imperfect Caregiver

Confessions of an Imperfect Caregiver, perfectly encapsulates the human experience, not just the caregiver’s. When we live in a world of worry, stress and self-doubt, where do we find the strength to go on? Bobbi’s retelling of her caregiving years unfold in a beautiful answer to the questions posed by sickness, health, care, and loss. Alexandra Axel, Media Director, The Caregiver Space

…a testament to love, compassion, grace and courage in the face of often inconceivable challenges. …Her tale is nothing short of heroic—invaluable for fellow caregivers. …a must-read for anyone who has a family or has loved another person. A story for us all. Erica Herd, Writer, Performer, Co-Author of the solo play, Alzheimer’s Blues

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