This picture made me laugh. I remember playing that game with my little ones when they were reluctant to eat. Food was strange. Textures felt weird in their mouth. Green stuff tasted okay but the orange glop? Disgusting. Sweet stuff? Now we’re talking.
Sound familiar caregivers?
I remember Rodger telling his doctor that he loved vegetables. It was true. He was a farm boy used to eating them fresh from the field. When he developed severe swallowing problems and his diet was limited to pureed foods and thickened liquids I made a lot of thick vegetable soups and stews, doing all I could to make sure they were full of nutrition and tasted good. So, when the doctor asked which vegetable was his favorite I was surprised to hear him say, “Pudding, the white kind.”
For several days he’d been eating smaller and smaller portions of the purees, pushing my hand away when I tried to get him to eat more. I was at a loss as to what to do.
“Pudding, the white kind.” I thought.
If pudding was what he liked, pudding he would get. It was thick enough he could swallow it. It didn’t melt into a liquid like ice cream would, putting him at risk of aspirating and it was made with milk. There was nutrition in there and he liked it. We both were happier when I helped him eat a few bites of the pureed food and as much of the pudding as he wanted.
There comes a time when we have to let go of what was and embrace what is. Foods they once loved no longer taste good and when that happens many of them want only sweet things. Ask the person in your care what his or her favorite food is. You might be surprised and inspired by the answer.
The Dr .Phil Challenge Continues
Dr. Phil, I challenge you to use your huge resources and the Dr. Phil Foundation to develop a program of grants to help caregivers follow your advice to accept help, rest, take care of themselves so they can continue to care for those they love so much that they are willing to sacrifice their health to for them.
Blog readers: Here is the link to the Dr. Phil episode referenced in this post. The segment on caregiving starts at around the 34 minute mark. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lXR1PddbrfQ
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